In order to truly enjoy socks, a boy must reflect on his vulnerability. He needs to embrace his vulnerability to rejection, rather than try to pretend he doesn’t care or even try to hide in a religious attitude. Such kind of hiding only represses the inner woman who is prone to take down the boy’s fragile ego time and again. A boy needs to be in stocking feet without giving into the powers of lust, which is the expression of a premature rejection of painful emotions. He must truly and feel the pain of unreciprocated desire, and to know that such desire is really a form of attachment and greed. It’s only when he really and truly mourns the inability to satisfy his ego and lusts through a woman that a boy can maure into true selflessness and generosity.
A lot of this reflection is symbolized in that Wilde’s “Salome”s story. But I want to go further with this observation and talk about the kinds of reversals and transformations that a boy needs to make in his life in order to mature.
The first is that a boy needs to allow girls and women in his life to be powerful, without trying to control that power. He needs to learn to properly respect the power of women rather than suppressing women or rejecting their power in a state of jealousy. If he chooses not to take this on, he will suffer the sense of threat and domination by women, because he gets his ego involved time and again. In failing to separate his real nature from his ego, he will feel the revenge of a woman, who will not stand to be imprisoned by men’s expectations or insecurity. He must learn to celebrate the power and intelligene of a woman, which has nothing to do with satisfying his ego and lusts. Then he can allow women to be allies in his life rather than threats to his ego and greed for sensations.
If anything, boys need to enjoy the comfort of socks without longing for the ego comforts of women. He must learn to comfort himself and not rely on women for such comforts. He must turn his lusts into respect for women.
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